The Daddy Issue Series Volume I

Your legs aren't a pair of scissors, CLOSE THEM!

             

 Daddy Issues is the modern day derivation coming from the Electro Complex developed by my favorite psychologist Carl Jung. It comes from the notion that women harvest some sort of sexual attachment with their fathers, many might question the notion but it remains that when women don’t receive the proper attention from their fathers, she may seek to find that attention from other men.

So How Exactly do you Identify Women with Daddy Issues?

Women with these “Daddy Issues” commonly manifest this lack of attention from their fathers in: excessive flirtation, promiscuity, dressing provocatively, tendencies towards exhibitionism, sexual aggressiveness, and any kind of emotional hang ups either personally, socially, or in relationships. 

How Do You Deal With Problems Associated with Women who Harbor Daddy Issues?

·      Sexual Aggressiveness: If a woman is impatient to hit the sack with you then it is up to the man to hit the brakes on it. Try to schedule a date before doing the deed in order to get to know her better. Showing her that you’re trying to get to know her will hint that she should tone down her sexuality and she will instantly put you in a different category which will impress her.

·      Excessive Flirting: This probably attracted you to her in the first place but now you just can’t take it anymore. Put your foot down and tell her it’s not okay and take it as a sign she needs more attention from you whether it be intimate attention or physically, she is not getting a need met if she is flirting excessively with other men.

Is It Possible to Change These Women from Daddy Issues to Girlfriend Material?

Yes. Glad you asked. Women with Daddy Issues are generally acting out to fix a significant wound inside themselves. They are not to be blamed for such behavior because it is caused by external forces of  trauma and terror brought on by their fathers, or more commonly lack thereof.  Blaming these women or calling them sluts is just cruel after reading what they go through like in the following excerpt:

“My parents divorced when I was 6, and after that, my father virtually vanished from my life. When I was 12, he relinquished all parental rights so he wouldn't have to pay child support. His desertion created a void that inevitably left me feeling unloved and insecure. After all, if your dad doesn't love you, why should anyone else?         As a teen, I transferred those feelings of inadequacy to my relationships with guys. I'd dump boyfriends quickly, scared that if I didn't, they'd beat me to it. When I got to college, my insecurities took on a more passive form: I'd stay with men who did drugs and cheated on me.” - Excerpt from Marie Clair article

But these women can be changed (Take Angelina Jolie for example).  Once you show her enough attention she won’t need to look else where to get the attention she is seeking.  Once women find inner peace with their fatherly issues, like in Angelina Jolie’s case she stopped talking to her dad and starting traveling the world doing humantarian aid, but whatever makes you happy right? For more information on getting over these issues or helping your love interest, girlfriend, best friends that a girl, or etc… gift her this book “Where Were You When I Needed You, Dad?: A Guide for Healing Your Father Wounds” By Dr. Jane Myers

There is more to come to stay tuned to this all inclusive Daddy Issue Series....

How to Raise Testosterone Levels & Last Longer

 Last Longer Naturally with this Simple Diet Regime         

        Have you ever heard about those people that talk about having sex for hours and think it’s nothing more than a romantic ideal perpetuated by unrealistic expectations from media, porn, and lying friends with big mouths? Well if that’s the case, you are wrong…this type of sexual bliss can be easily achieved with a few small adjustments that cause your testosterone levels to increase.

                Sexual Performance is closely tied to general health... and so is sex drive for that matter. For example, sexual impotence and erectile dysfunction disorder is usually more closely tied to poor circulation than any other emotional or sexual problems. Some people that take Viagra are often suffering from poor functioning hearts and would be better off Aspirin. (This is not intended to be medical advice, please consult with your doctor before starting any diet, medical or supplemental regime). T- levels naturally dip as time goes by due to age, radiation, plastics, and pollutants in general. Increasing and maintaining high levels of testosterone helps men not only last longer, but it helps them maintain a strong and consistent sex drive that is a sign of a normal, healthy lifestyle, and most importantly is pleasurable to women. But even if you’re young, have healthy circulation, and BP there are some quick fixes to boosting your T levels for that special lady on that special night.

                My friend found much success with consistently increasing and maintaining his high T levels by using this regime and recommended it to me wholeheartedly. Follow these tips and you’ll be able to give to her Back to back, No interruption, All night long, On the bed, on the couch, In the shower, you get the idea….

         

           “The Day Before”: Ladies and Gents there are some things you can do in order to temporarily boosts yours ‘(Gents) or your partners (Ladies, unfortunately this doesn’t work for women, even though we have small amounts of Testosterone in our system boosting it makes you less feminine)

o   Eat 800 mg of “good cholesterol” within three hours of bedtime like 4 or more large whole eggs/egg yolks. This works because testosterone is derived from cholesterol, and primarily made during sleep…So don’t skimp on your 7-8 hours at least the night before the magic

o   4 hours Prior:

         §  2 Cod Liver Oil Pills

         §  21 Raw Almonds

         §  4 Raw Brazil Nuts            

 The Express Plan

          o   Take a ten minute (I would say short but a cold shower for any period of time feels long)shower/ice bath upon waking up and right before bed

           o   Cod Liver Capsules: Take 2 before bed, and 2 upon waking up

           o   Brazil Nuts: Take 3 of these nuts when you wake and 3 before bed

           o   Vitamin D Pills: (6,000-10,000 IU per day) To test your current levels buy this easy athome test on Amazon until you reach blood levels of 55 ng/ml 

 Long Term & Sustained Plan:

            o   Absorb Vitamin D naturally by exposing yourself to the sun for at least 30 minutes a day which should be easy during the summer months, maybe that’s the cause of “summer loves”haha

            o   Maintain nut, oil, and cholesterol regime

            o   Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables (avoid Asparagus and Pineapple is wonderful for men to consume. Why? Look it up : )

           o   Exercise 30 minutes a day at least 5 days a week, Mix in cardio other than sex and include strength training. Muscle growth stimulates testosterone production a lot but it’s not overnight. The second glances from girls won’t hurt either.

Get those levels up or else your lover/girlfriend might run to someone that read this blog ; ) 

***For more in depth information, refer to this “Tripling Your Testosterone Cheat Sheet” online or print it out and leave it in your underwear drawer for an ongoing reminder. (Who said we can’t use cheat sheets just because we’re out of college) Compliments of 4HourLife.com http://www.scribd.com/full/50509373?access_key=key-24cbvzariinoa2gsrh8f

Are Woman With Many Male Friends to be Trusted?

So it’s been a looong day at work & I have been counting down the days to my female cousin’s birthday party tomorrow, mostly because I just moved to a new country and wanted to make some girlfriends in the area. This will be my first time meeting her friends so I asked her if she has a lot of girls coming to her party & she said a couple of her close friends from since she was little were coming and they all live hours away. So at first I was like great, I’ll be going to a sausage fest, but then I thought: What causes women to have many more male friends than girlfriends?

I dug around the internet and found this blog written by a womanizer Sinn called: “Never Trust a Girl with Too Many Guy Friends.” And wow, did he know what he was talking about. He pretty said that since women are naturally competitive with each other about picking the perfect mate (since the caveman days) due to the tested and accepted premises of evolutionary psychology. So, girls who don’t get along with other women and don’t have a lot of girlfriends are subconsciously doing it to eliminate competition. Girls are naturally supposed to get along better with other girls than men, remember my favorite book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.  

He said women who don’t have at leave 40% female friends tend to cheat infinitely more than girls who have an abundance of girlfriends. They can come off weird and needy to men because they don’t have the same level of support system with which to discuss their problems. And interestingly, he said that many of these women cheat simply because they are insecure due to the fact that they alienated by their own sex. Women who have mostly guy best friends can’t be trusted and under the same premise, men with mostly female friends are not to be trusted either.

To play devil’s advocate, sometimes women hold onto to guy friends because they want honest advice about men from a man. I mean although I dish out 10 times more advice than I receive, when I do ask my female friends for advice I usually get horrible advice from them that ends up backfiring on me either pushing the guy away or making me look desperate (to me, looking desperate is the Worst relationship poison). Weak men are threatened by their girlfriend’s abundance of guy friends, like in my case with my ex, and they will do everything they can to push these friends away including intimidation, threats, or even abusive social isolation.

The most common reason why women end up this way is because “Daddy Issues” we will delve into this in detail on my next blog…watch out for it early next week! Other reasons can be: they were a tomboy growing up, she had a close group of female friends that turned on her and traumatized her from being close with females again, she’s more interested in work or sports than hair and make-up and simply isn’t very feminine (and cannot relate), or she was raised by a single dad or a family with primarily males.

I’m not suggesting in anyway that girls in this situation should ex-communicate all their guy friends and go out trying to look for girl friends on every street corner. On the flip side, women with only girlfriends, and no guy friends,  aren’t to be trusted either. I mean any girl that can’t get along with half of the population has some sort of issue. The problem with these kind of girls is they might bring their girlfriends along on all of your nights out, expect you to pay for their girls, will refuse to be a “good sport” (by watching football games with their significant other or whatever other male activity they enjoy), and maybe worst will constantly be surrounding their boyfriends in girltalk. So men take your pick.

Is All Work and No Play Okay?

Or do we need to love in order to work well. Well we all know that one person in the office that is clearly over worked and under fucked. These over achievers have a full time job and are divorced from any kind of normal social life. You can tell because they drive everyone (except maybe the CEO) crazy and take work matters way too seriously. They make others in the workplace look bad because they may sometimes tattle about collegues’ phone, Facebook, and personal email use. So people are wondering, “Is it better to have a full time job and no life or a full time life and part-time job?” 

For the most part, work lives and love lives have been seen as polar opposite, non-overlapping life matters. But it’s hard to argue that there has to be some sort of relationship between work satisfaction and relationship satisfaction, no matter how small. I mean first of all, work relationships are fairly common just because the pool of eligible singles dramatically decreases as soon as one finishes undergrad. Even in graduate programs a significantly larger percentage of students are married or engaged compared to undergraduate programs.

Do we need to focus on work, instead of focusing on fun in our lives? Well Freud, the Father of Psychology, thinks not, he suggested that the overarching goal of psychotherapy is to allow the patient to love and to work. And notice he lists love first suggesting it may be first and foremost important. In fact, even employers looks for employees with stable family and love lives. It is far more useful for employers to hire someone with a wife and children because they know they have incentive to keep their job and they have the motivation to do the work that is expected from them.

Is it even beneficial to put work over love in the long term? To answer that, there is evidence the people with secure attachment styles are also very successful when it comes to work: they are less likely to put off work, are least likely to have difficultly completing tasks, they enjoy their vacation time, and are less likely to let work jeopardize their life. But those with alternative attachment are both unsuccessful at relationships and at work…so there is a connection! The exact connect cannot be pinpointed because not enough research has been conducted on the relation between the two.

             There is no reason that pursuing your personal life within reason has to come in between or sacrifice any of your work efforts. So if you’re waiting to plan your next vacation or if you’re weary of asking your boss to let you leave early to get ready for a hot date tonight, I hope you GO FOR IT!...... Not like I’m condoning sexting or Skyping during work...

But if you live a little then you’ll see you’ll work a little harder too. 

"Is There Ever A Reason to Cheat?"

"A Male vs. Female perspective on the Matter"

This picture substitutes HOES for Cheating (and
it got 15 likes on FB page in one day!)

You hear about cheating as one of the big perils in broken relationships, refer  to right diagram. Regrettably, I have been there done that, and my ex didn't deserve it. And consequently, I regretted it deeply and I wouldn't repeat the same relationship blunder. Why is it so bad? Well in my female opinion, it desecrates the power dynamic in a relationship to something that cannot ever be stabilized in the same way again.

"But really, if you're cheating, then why are u in a relationship? Wouldn’t it be easier to break up with you insignificant other and just be free to play the field?" - Ms. Date Guru

Staying in an unhappy relationship shows you don’t have any respect for the other person, and respect is essential in relationships. Not being forthcoming with how you feel to your partner is essentially lying. In relationships, trust and respect are essential elements, like hydrogen and carbon in chemistry.

When cheating happens it really is a shame because sexual problems in relationships are the easiest to fix. I mean compared to baggage from last relationships, family issues (which almost never get resolved), or long distance relationships…sexual problems can easily be fixed with acknowledgment and commitment from both parties.

If you're stuck in a relationship for legal (marriage) or physical (cohabitation) reasons, people may have the urge to cheat but not because they need to or want to. Subconsciously, they do it to prove to themselves that they are not trapped in the relationship like a caged bird. As humans, we have the need and desire to exercise our free will. When that is restrained (like Jail) that’s the worst ethical punishment you can inflict on someone else. Mr. thinks it may be acceptable to cheat in this situation, but doesn’t encourage it because of the unknown, malicious affects it will have on the partner- if not in the short term, definitely in the long term. Mr. doesn’t disparage cheating because everybody has to make his or her own mistakes in order to learn. Don't stay faithful because you know you should, do it because you want to.

             

          Mr. says, “There is never a reason to cheat. NEVER…regardless of any urge you feel. When you enter a relationship, you have to somewhat sacrifice your perogative in favor of your partner, you have to be able to adjust and compromise. (Ms. Date Guru says: The compromise must be equal on behalf of both parties). So how do you have the right to do an injustice to someone you care about just because “you're tired of the same ‘ole same ‘ole," or "I just got caught off guard". We have to forsake ourselves in favor of our lover if we are to find true satisfaction in a relationship. Otherwise be fuck buddies and don’t take it to the next level, exclusivity”

So why do people cheat? It can be boiled down to: “Cheaters are weak”…that’s why. They seek to cheat in order to fill some insecurity they have with themselves or with their partner. They are too weak so they succumb to the societal pressures printed in low rate media. They follow the example of Kobe Bryant, Tiger Woods, and countless others like Eric Benet who made a name for himself by cheating on arguable one of the most beautiful women in the world- Halle Berry.

In order to crack this never-ending cycle of deceit, we need change the way we think about relationships. I’m doing my part in spreading the awareness of the causes of cheating and its detrimental effects not only in terms of individuals but also their current and future relationships. Now you do your part- Don’t Cheat. 

Do Italian Men Fit The Stereotype?

         So if you're looking for a fun time at the Jershey Shore for the summer,snagging a Guido would be the natural gut reaction. But if you're looking for a tall dark and handsome guy who is both romantic AND can cook, well you have to go to Italy for that. When you asked I was up for the mission, I sent out my team to do field research to reveal the beautiful and ugly truth of Italian men. Men from Italy are the real secret weapon, they are passionate in mind, body, and spirit.You don't even need to speak Italian!...because they are fluent in the language of love and in some cases may even speak and understand Spanish. But I mean who can complain about hearing non-sensical Italian gibberish for hours? If you spend times with real Italian men you will feel assured that you will be reminded how beautiful you are on a consistent basis. Their favorite sayings are: "Bella!", "Amore!", "Te Amo", and "Bella Rigatze".

        The common stereotypes are that Italian men are great lovers, passionate, romantic,great cooks, they eat pasta.These have all been confirmed. But the dangers of Italian men is that they are known to be players and have a wandering eye that sometimes can't be tamed. The best way to handle these player types is to remember this saying: "The looser the hand, the tighter the grip". That means the less you suffocate these men the more they will flock towards you. Italian men are all about "Le Dolce Vita' the would like nothing more than to share the bed and day with a beautiful women,cook her pasta, drink wine,and waste the day away. Not only do they have good genes, they have great JEANS! Italian men dress impeccably, unless you're put off by men in skinnies, a shirts slightly on the tighter side. They are such free spirits are heart, structure and schedules are not in their vocabulary.But for a rebound,short fling, or summer romance they can be the perfect fit. Women please tread with caution, buckle your seat belts,and enjoy the ride!
       

Just Take A Step

    Every street had a story. Every building a memory.

        Walking down the path of life, every place I see is not physically present, sometimes my laptop can be home. The comfort of knowing that I'm in a familiar and comfortable place.      

        But the great memory doesn't stay in the same place. Why? Sometimes I'm just a walk down memory lane. With the beautiful memories and the shame and regrets.

        All these memories take place in the street in the same period of time. It is not a "no pain, no gain" situation. It's just a I got to live through and get to the moment of expected bliss situation. The streets I have walked are full of memories. But there is also a time I represent  but the memories also represent a learning experience. I had to enter into overfull buildings to get a building full of happiness.

      Finally, this is in a street, on a block, on a neighborhood, on a entry, that I want to walk.

 Don't you?