Check out this article in the Halloween edition of Her Campus Magazine www.hercampus.com/maryland. But get a preview of it on Ms. Date Guru!
Now a days Dating is all about "playing the game" I'm sure you've heard about the Mystery Method and The Natural Attraction Method that breaks down player tendencies in an easy to follow step-by-step formula to teach men to go from chump to player. But these points are mute now as more and more women are reading these books and learning men's tricks. Conversely, some men try to be the nice guys and hand out "treats" to women but even that has a rep- "nice guys finish last" So how much are these games really helping? I asked guys and girls to weigh in on what games work and which ones don't.
My girlfriends commented that one of the most common games guys play is the "No Means Yes Game". It is a common assumption (at least among the immature men ie. highschoolers and lowerclassmen in college) which they take to be fact. Men rationalize this behavior by citing women's tendency to be passive aggressive. It is further compounded in situations where men will ask women what is wrong, but they say nothing- while they're secretly boiling over in anger. So let's kill this game once and for all girls by being straight forward in your communication with guys.
Some men, play the game of preying on women who are taken. They always want what they can't have and they will pursue their close friends' girlfriends putting them in compromising situations. Women often fall in this trap because they want to be close with their man's friends but it's hard to draw the line between being friendly and being too close. These men will take advantage of women when they are in vunerable positions like when their guy just cheated on them, or they got into a fight with a boyfriend. These leeches like to go after women who are alreayd pre-screened. They aren't even attracted to single girls .
Another common game a lot of women are familiar with is only discovered after they start dating the man. They come to find that the man is a totally different person when they start dating. One of my friends complained that her boyfriend had an angry and violent side that only came out after they started dating. This is misleading to women because men act on their best behavior when courting a girl but then get lazy when they are dating her. This is common in couples who never fight until after they are committed, if this is the case in your relationship, beware!
My guys friends were really helpful in explaining the major games girls play. The biggest and most hated game by the male sex is playing hard to get. Yes, it's a classic but now, women take it even further by acting like they aren't easy and hiding their true sexual intents. Men see through this act, because they can get a feeling for when a women is going out of her way to stop the physical. And men soon find out their real attitude and are turned off by the fakeness. So women, please follow your head and heart equally when making decisions about hooking up and don't put up an act to get respect form a guy- because it will do the opposite.
Another and probably men's most hated game, "The Let's Be Freinds Game". My boyfriend gave me insight about this game through his past experiences. He noted that at least in his case, women use this strategy to tease and mainpulate the man. The ultimate goal of this is breaking the guy, getting satisfaction, or getting the tables turned whereby the women will passively want the man to make advances without making their intentions clear. Ironically, the goal of it is what the women wanted in the beginning, the man to do the pursuing. When two attractive people are friends, or they hang out for a long time, they are bound to sleep together. Think about the classic movie, When Harry Met Sally, if there's one thing to learn from this movie, it's that when men and women are attractive and attracted to each other, it is impossible to be friends.
The asshole game is another classic approach, although it has a high failure rate. In it, men try to act like they have no respect for women and see if this will increase women's attraction. Albeit, this may only work if the woman has low self-esteem, it is usually a bad approach to try and is well known by men and women. Because why would you want to be an asshole to someone you like? And why would you want to date a women who is attracted to an asshole
I know Halloween is around the corner but make sure you are prepared when these tricks and treats come your way.
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