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How to decode Mixed Signals with Body Language
By Jessica Berdan
According to some body language experts men have more difficulty decoding nonverbal communication. When girls get ultra-sensitive over a “nasty look” men won’t even be able to tell when a girl is shamelessly flirting with him. The top signals men should look out for are listed below:
1. When Anger Is Bubbling: Of course when she’s fuming and nagging a man knows it from a mile away, but when women are feeling passive aggressive men won’t be able to guess. It’s hard for women to show their anger. It is more socially acceptable for men to show anger and women to show sadness. That could be a reason it’s harder for men to read signs of anger in women. She may show some subtle signs like letting her mouth gape open or avoiding eye contact when you check out the waitress’s rack…..of lamb. Pay attention when it seems she’s ignoring you, ask her what’s wrong, you’ll squeeze it out eventually.
2. “Can We Leave Already?!” Signals: Recently I was in an awkward position at a holiday dinner. I was offended and couldn’t bear it any longer but my boyfriend didn’t quite get the signal. From asking to my girlfriends, “Have guys failed to respond to your nonverbal cues in the past?” The majority said yes, when they find that men don’t respond they resort to verbal communication when wanting to leave. Women send clear signals when they want to go like, grabbing her purse, looking at her watch repeatedly, gradually moving toward the door, getting up, or disengaging from the conversation. So men make sure to look out for these signals around the end of the night or when you suspect your girl’s uncomfortable, because she may not voice her feelings directly as you’d like.
3. “I’m so Bored” Signals: Many women can attest to be on a really bad date with a guy and getting their ears talked off. When you find that you’re producing the majority of the conversation, the girl is likely uninterested or doesn’t care. When you start that long talk with your bros about your favorite football team or dream car and she begins to rest her head on her hands, you can bet she probably couldn’t care less.
4. Body Language Combined With Speech: Often women send mixed signals, their body language says one thing and their words say the opposite, which really throws men off. Women are used to picking subtle body language cues in other women but men find it harder to pick up on it like sarcasm or embarrassment. Since 90% of communication is body language it would be to your benefit to pay attention to those signals to benefit you anywhere from business to love. Because men aren’t on the alert for body language, they often choose the verbal message which can get you in sticky situations. If you’re unsure, tell her, “I don’t think that’s what you really mean”.
5. Flirting Signals: Surprising but true, if I had a quarter for every time I heard a guy say, “If I knew she liked me I would have made a move,”, I would be able to afford the diamond bra form the VS Fashion show (I know you guys know which one I’m talking about). Subtle signals like twirling her hair or batting her eyelashes are examples. Some women play hot and cold, I know, and it may be harder to pick out their body language but physical and eye contact are the best indicators. Don’t be that guy that I always hear from hitting themselves in the head over how they missed out on pursuing that cute geek in high school or the girl who sits next to you in Bio 101, or the hottie you run into on the way out of the movies. Look more closely to body language and often you will realize a women likes you more effectively than seeing if she takes your number or talking to her friend.
Xoxo,
Ms. Date Guru
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