Between all the romantic comedies girls watch, girls’ expectation of courting and romance has changed. Guys are feeling the pressure to do things bigger and better than ever before to get girls attention. But those helicopter messages and bed of roses are highly overrated. I personally think the best things in life are free. I think that a simple serenade is more romantic than a lavish limo ride followed by an ocean view dinner or an expensive necklace. Many guys think women love surprises but that isn’t necessarily the case.
Wait until you know the girl well to surprise her, definitely don’t do it on a first date. Getting to know a girl better will shed insight about her feelings of the unexpected, and spontaneity. For example, girls that are picky eaters at restaurants will usually be unappreciative of surprises, because it’s out of her control. Taking a girl to a surprise place, is less risky though so if you need to test the way she reacts to surprises, than try taking her to you favorite park or one of your favorite site seeing spots in the near by city. Guys should primarily be he one surprising girls because it shows that he is comfortable making decisions, or “wearing the pants” in the relationship. Be careful getting her best friend or mom in on an elaborate plan because there’s a risk they might tell.
In terms of gifts, if you get a girl a gift and she doesn’t like it, than it may do more harm than good because she’ll be disappointed. Also don’t play up a surprise or surprise date, it is a very good idea to take the initiative and plan things and it shows thought that you took effort and that you care about her which girls like. But when you build a surprise up, she might be disappointed just like prom, for example, that was built up with anticipation in teen magazines and from dress shopping, and all the money spent on primping that the actual night was eclipsed in comparison.
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