Love shyness is a real disorder that’s affecting many social phobic college-age men. love-shy people find it close to impossible to assert themselves in social situations in romantic and sexual encounters with the opposite sex, although they may be fairly comfortable in friendly situations because f the large amount of social anxiety (that something bad will happen).
It’s a real issue: love-shyness afflicts approximately 1.5% of American males and will prevent about 1.7 million U.S. males from ever marrying or experiencing intimate sexual contact with women!
People effected with love shyness are usually characterized by the following:
You are an adult male
You have never, or very rarely had girlfriends
You have never, or very rarely had sex
You have remained single while all your friends dated and got married
You are so inhibited by your fear of asking a woman for a date that you never do
- Wikipedia
Causes may be due to bullying in school due to their shyness and inhibition so they may have fragile self-esteems and egos, making them strong targets. Another cause may parental upbringing, where they might have been abused whether verbally or physically, negative comparisons, or plain indifference. This may cause the love shy male to build a shell around to protect himself and further isolating himself. They may even avoid social situations with their peers as well the opposite sex; making this a “vicious cycle” inhibiting further social interactions. And a good friend of mine, “The only way to break a continuous cycle is by some kind of external force.” That force is change, you need to be eased in to force to change your habits
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