Ms. Date Guru: You See A Hot Girl, Now What?

Article About 1st Impressions

Ms. Date Guru Approves of The Cosmo Bedroom Blog

This month's Cosmo-my favorite!

I, like most women, love to read Cosmo. And their Online Magazine is just as good, I found a really good "bedroom blog" about K. who is Cosmo's fictional blogger, a twenty-something chick who works in television. Here K. dishes about her sexy (and sometimes dramatic) dating adventures. I'm sure these are based on real life experiences. It's a really Juicy Read. AndThere's a lot of cool stories in here. http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/bedroom-blog/
p.s. Guys, if you want to learn how women really think, read this mag. My boyfriend has learned so much already by stealing some of my magazines. 
XOXO, 
Ms. Date Guru

You See A Hot Girl, Now What?

These girls can be yours, as long as you
don't interrogate them

When reading Neil Strauss' The Game I realized there is an art of first impressions, that creates seduction. Women want to be seduced, they want a romantic experience, like they're being swept off their feet. When men think about picking up girls, they automatically start asking them questions. They can be smart questions, dumb questions, opinions, or open ended questions. By asking questions mixed with intimidation, all you’re going to get is a fake age/name, some information you don’t care about, or the finger in some cases. The key to building attraction in women is building the emotional connection. When you give girls an emotional reaction whether positive or negative it builds attraction. In my experience, the guys that I'm attracted to are the ones that I feel like I've known forever- even if we've just met. Because let’s face it, women are emotional, they love feelings, and are on emotional roller coasters. I have heard more of my friends pine over guys that ignore them than men who adore them. Trust me, women won’t appreciate the interest. Women don’t want to feel like they are on a job interview, there’s nothing enticing about that. Instead of using questions, use statements. Have you notice how you talk to your best friend? Friends that are close, often talk in statement form telling each other their opinions and ideas.  Breed that confidence and intimacy with a girl instantly by using this tactic. “Remember it’s not a game, it’s being your best self”. 

New Guest Blog on Rachel Russo's NEW Mr. It Boy Blog

I fell in love with the blog from the moment I read it. "Because men like to read this stuff too" it claimed, and I whole heartedly agree, in fact more men approach with an issue, when they find out my background, then women do. This blog is aimed to appeal to men and tell them, "what women really want." Rachel Russo works for Master Matchmakers, from the show, Tough Love, the link to this post on her site is: http://www.rachelrussosdatingadviceformen.com/

How to decode Mixed Signals with Body Language

By Jessica Berdan

According to some body language experts men have more difficulty decoding nonverbal communication. When girls get ultra-sensitive over a “nasty look” men won’t even be able to tell when a girl is shamelessly flirting with him. The top signals men should look out for are listed below:

1. When Anger Is Bubbling: Of course when she’s fuming and nagging a man knows it from a mile away, but when women are feeling passive aggressive men won’t be able to guess. It’s hard for women to show their anger. It is more socially acceptable for men to show anger and women to show sadness. That could be a reason it’s harder for men to read signs of anger in women. She may show some subtle signs like letting her mouth gape open or avoiding eye contact when you check out the waitress’s rack…..of lamb. Pay attention when it seems she’s ignoring you, ask her what’s wrong, you’ll squeeze it out eventually.

2. “Can We Leave Already?!” Signals: Recently I was in an awkward position at a holiday dinner. I was offended and couldn’t bear it any longer but my boyfriend didn’t quite get the signal. From asking to my girlfriends, “Have guys failed to respond to your nonverbal cues in the past?” The majority said yes, when they find that men don’t respond they resort to verbal communication when wanting to leave. Women send clear signals when they want to go like, grabbing her purse, looking at her watch repeatedly, gradually moving toward the door, getting up, or disengaging from the conversation. So men make sure to look out for these signals around the end of the night or when you suspect your girl’s uncomfortable, because she may not voice her feelings directly as you’d like.

3. “I’m so Bored” Signals: Many women can attest to be on a really bad date with a guy and getting their ears talked off. When you find that you’re producing the majority of the conversation, the girl is likely uninterested or doesn’t care. When you start that long talk with your bros about your favorite football team or dream car and she begins to rest her head on her hands, you can bet she probably couldn’t care less. 

4. Body Language Combined With Speech: Often women send mixed signals, their body language says one thing and their words say the opposite, which really throws men off. Women are used to picking subtle body language cues in other women but men find it harder to pick up on it like sarcasm or embarrassment. Since 90% of communication is body language it would be to your benefit to pay attention to those signals to benefit you anywhere from business to love. Because men aren’t on the alert for body language, they often choose the verbal message which can get you in sticky situations. If you’re unsure, tell her, “I don’t think that’s what you really mean”.

5. Flirting Signals: Surprising but true, if I had a quarter for every time I heard a guy say, “If I knew she liked me I would have made a move,”, I would be able to afford the diamond bra form the VS Fashion show (I know you guys know which one I’m talking about). Subtle signals like twirling her hair or batting her eyelashes are examples. Some women play hot and cold, I know, and it may be harder to pick out their body language but physical and eye contact are the best indicators. Don’t be that guy that I always hear from hitting themselves in the head over how they missed out on pursuing that cute geek in high school or the girl who sits next to you in Bio 101, or the hottie you run into on the way out of the movies. Look more closely to body language and often you will realize a women likes you more effectively than seeing if she takes your number or talking to her friend.

Xoxo,

Ms. Date Guru

Hey Mr. DJ: Interview with DJ Saam

Hey Mr. DJ

How to Get a DJ’s attention:

Don’t request a song. Saam recognizes girls that are dancing and enjoying his music rather than those who talk his ear off with requests at the DJ booth. Maybe Madonna’s advice isn’t correct, don’t ask the DJ to play your song. If you’re trying to vibe with a DJ send positive vibes and body language like nodding your head, and grooving to the beat. When Saam wants to get the ladies pumped up, he’s sure to play lots of Ke$ha and Katy Perry….out is Marvin Gaye and Luther Vandross.

If DJ Saam and Ms. Date Guru were Djing your Sack Sesh, this Would be the Playlist:

Saam says the key to a good sex mix is incorporating songs with no vocals. Words in songs can distract you from “the moment”. This mix reflects progressive house, which creates the perfect ambience for your build up. His favorite is the moonbeam sample by Marcus Schultz.

DJ Saam with my boyfriend, Nick and I at D.C.'s
hottest rooftop club, Eden

About DJ Saam:

He is from Gaithersburg, Maryland but you would never know it because now he DJS at D.C.’s hottest clubs like Eden, Lotus, and Fly. He started doing small gigs in College Park, Maryland and opening for his DJ friend. He found out the sky is the limit. He’s putting his career first before dating at this point. But he’s looking for a down to earth girl that wants him for him, not his VIP status in clubs. Speaking personally, he is a very outgoing, friendly, and respectful person, and his smile makes women weak in the knees. If any ladies who are interested in contacting this gem, email msdateguru@gmail.com

Catch him in D.C.
Eden Wednesdays
Fridays at Fly
Barcode Saturdays

Dating Expert Tracy Steinberg Talk to A Clinical Psychologist About Dating Tips

Check out her website, she is the Hitch of New York City. The video link is at: http://lifecoachtracey.com/dating-help-911/ She has her own dating show that is broadcasted online to ask her a question just tweet @datinghelp911 and of course don't forget to add me, @msdateguru