The Origins of Seduction- Casanova’s Story

I welcome my guest blogger, who goes by Ice (because he's really good at breaking the ice) who shed light on the life of Casanova after reading his memoir called, "The Story of My Life." Although in present day there are many player, pick up artists or seducers, none of them can boast that they have a 100% clean record like Giacomo Casanova who is considered to the greatest lover of women with over a hundred sexual conquests in his lifetime. None the less, his immersion into the world of seduction, love, and games was learned when he was played by his host sister, Batina. In a span of several months, she played the infamous game that many today are acquainted with in the world of dating, or at that time, courting. She consumed his thoughts with burning desire, and constant thoughts of her, just like in modern day men would be consumed with thoughts of women they adore and admire. Nonetheless, Casanova was fortunate to get back with Batina, when she was plaqued by an illness that put sores all over her face, and he effectively turned the table on her because now that she was ugly, he had the power. After all this torture Casanova came to learn women’s guil or cleverness when it come to games. He didn’t take things for face value and he became more conscious and aware which led to his gradual confidence and charisma that his exploits are known for.

This serves to show that even the greatest have to fall- at least once. The point was further proven in the movie, The Ugly Truth, where the main character Mike Chadway was a crass, arrogant player in the love game. He told it “how it is” and did not sugar coat anything, making the trails and tribulations of love seem trivial and boiled down to the fact that men will only like you for your looks, and they will only stick around if you’re not a bother. He ruled out any stipulations of love saying it was a manufactured construct only available in romance novels and women’s imaginations. He dispels love saying women only look for the utopian man, from the example in the movie, Katherine Hiegel’s checklist. He says women don’t fall in love with men they fall in love with you perfectly manicured resumes and the careful venal decisions they make in life. Saying women would trade “money over substance, looks over soul, and polish over principle”. So don’t be afraid to fall and get hurt, it’s better to learn trail by fire than to accept it and move on. Have an open mind, don’t be attached to the outcome because that first fall is the open door to seduction possibility and you need to experience it in order to learn. And women, this may explain why men can be so harsh and cold as a 23 year old man, Danny said, "Men commit to women on an emotional level at an earlier age. most men I know that they loved their first girlfriend. but when she broke their heart, they decided not to go through the pain again."