Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

Quite often nice guys are misinformed in thinking that women are only interested in guys that don’t care about them and don’t treat them right. And it doesn’t help to have songs like, “You’re a Jerk” and images in the media compounding that misconception, making it seem more and more true. But I would beg to argue that is a myth, and women are really attracted to nice guys. After all, how many times have you heard of a girl telling her mom or friend, “he’s just what I’m looking for…he’s such a jerk!”? 
It may be easy to generalize that women don’t like nice guys because they often reject men by saying, “You’re nice, but I would just like to be friends.” So then, when men hear this they might mistakenly think the reason the woman isn’t interested was because the man was nice. On that same token, men might think that women are interested in jerks because often they use this word in describing past boyfriends. Women, unknowingly fixate on how bad her ex was treating her making him look unfavorable in other men’s eyes. So it makes sense that nice guys would wonder why she got so involved with him is he was such a “jerk”. But what he doesn’t know is, the woman wouldn’t have gotten involved with him if she hadn’t of thought he was nice when she first met him. 
Women like nice guys, but when they are too nice it can turn women off. When a woman is attracted or uncertain and a man is showing more interest, behaving as if they are exclusive or even more, it is easy for her to lose interest. She may be afraid of him getting too attached and hurting him, or if he’s really nice she is afraid he will abandon her when he finds out that she’s not as nice as him. She feels he wants too much, he expects too much, and he gives too much, so she may feel obligated to give back more than she is ready to. 
Women seem to be attracted to men who “don’t really care” because these men are clearly in the attraction or uncertainty stage, which is the appropriate stage to begin a relationship. Women like to be pursued, but when a man is not yet sure about exclusivity and beyond, they come off as very attractive. He is attractive simply because she feels safe backing out or being unsure without the risk of hurting him. When a man comes on really strong, it can make a women feel she doesn’t have the right to feel uncertain. As a result, she never gets the assurance in herself to move into an exclusive relationship.