Friday, April 15, 2011
The Gay Code: What To Do When a Gay Guy Hits On You
Homophobia is in the past but still sometimes my guy friend voice to me their struggles warding off gay guys. What do you do if you’re a straight guy in a club and you get hit on by a gay guy? Sometimes gay men are too ruthless and they keep pressing on, this was evident to me when a gay guy hit on my boyfriend and wouldn’t resist until I was publically making out with him. There’s 3 common routes to evade the problem from most direct to indirect here it goes. My boyfriend Nick, is blunt he takes the aggressive route and he makes it clear that he’s not gay and not interested. But the midway is my friend, Sohrab who is polite, isn’t rude but doesn’t indulge them in conversation either. He has even gotten free drinks from gay men before. He thanks them is polite and then moves on. My friend Kash is the nice guy who doesn’t want to act homophobic in the slightest sense and stays social so as to not hurt his feelings. Which approach is the best? I think that it’s unfair to lead a guy on as I have known girls who have been lead on my gay guys and get really hurt in the end. Is it better to be direct and honest or is it best to be polite and possibly lead a guy on? I need YOUR feedback! To celebrate my gay love I will be publishing GBF, My Gay Best friend Post coming soon! Because every girl wants a gay best friend
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Jessica,
ReplyDeleteThis is a comedic blog post to me on a personal level. I've been hit on by gay guys several times, but each of those experiences were different. What I've found works best is to amalgamate all three of your 'routes.' For example, one of the times I had a really persistent gay guy hit on me, I was very nice in my approach to him. I told him, "look dude, I'm seriously not gay so if you're looking for some kind of encounter, don't waste your time. I will however indulge in just being cool, shit I'd give you the shirt off my back, just don't come at me that way and we're cool."
Honestly, I think it's a good thing to be nice about how you say things, but yet very firm about making your intents, or the lack thereof, known. The guy kind of backed off with his nagging, and bought me a drink. We spent the night talking to both guys and girls together, I tried to hook him up with dudes, and he hooked me up with one of his girlfriends.