Is the Double Standard Restricting Us From Being Single?

         The double standard, it's the difference between how people perceive male and female promiscuity, and it's still a harsh truth in this day and age.  Women have been acquired more and more new rights and responsibilities along with the more liberal view of sex compared to those in the past; which has been tightening the gap between the double standard but it has not been extinguished.  Some women do not understand this phenomena and act as if it didn't exist, but being aware of it is the first step to securing a proud reputation for yourself.

       It is a harsh reality that people would judge a women who had 10 partners more harshly than a man with the same amount of partners. Evolutionarily, men value girls that are chaste and faithful. You hear it all the time in rap, Ludacris said, "I want a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. " And men are protecting themselves from living out the worst nightmare. Kanye West puts it best, "18 years and on the 18th birthday he found out he wasn't his" from Gold Digger. If you're single and seeing a guy, why would he judge you for seeing other guys as well? Isn't that what being single is all about? Consider the common case, when she has a boyfriend but he doesn't have a girlfriend, why should that be right?

        Well when you are "seeing someone" they will view non-exclusivity as a personal dig, and in a sense it is. My player friend, Josh says he went from girlfriend to girlfriend because he liked small parts of each one, and he couldn't find "the whole package". And when you are hooking up or sleeping with multiple people-even when you're single you are telling them they are insufficient and they can't satisfy you. Which hurts a man's pride and vulnerable ego. Girls don't have such a vunerable ego, instead they are more sensitive to rejection. The factor is compounded especially when you are dating multiple people in the same social circle because it hits closer to home. Be careful who you're dating so you don't mess with others feelings and your own, or else you may be staying single.