Deal Breakers

There may come a time when you're dating someone and you simply can't move forward once you discover something about them, this is a deal breaker aka red flag, non-negotiables. As you date more and more people, you will have a better idea of what your non-negotiables are. Some deal breakers like religion and age can warrant an instant break up, no matter how great the person is. these are usually the hardest and most painful breakups, the kind that require me consoling crying friends. This is another reason why taking it slow in relationships is a great idea. When you get to know the person well first, the deal breakers will come up before you have invested significant emotions and time in the relationship. I see many of my friends make the same mistakes with guys such as dating guys in relationships or forgiving cheaters and then they see the same results. As Albert Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. For example, a friend Liz keeps dating consistent partiers and she subsequently feels neglected by her man. Although she may like a popular social guy, what she may need is a quiet, homebody would invest more and be a more devoted boyfriend to her which would suit her better. Some other common red flags to look out for are: STDS, age, religion (especially if one of you is very religious), married or in a relationship, psycho ex girlfriends, and cheating. So watch out!