It just dawned on me how much I love what I do when I was writing a paper for my Advanced Social Psychology Paper on the Attachment Styles in the Context of Family and Couples Psychotherapy, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and EFT (Emotionally FOcused Couples Therapy)! Then I Googled this quote by Harvey MacKay, “ Find something you love and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.” And isn’t that the goal of everyone, to do something they love? I'm sure your parents have told you, I want you to do anything you want, as long as it makes you happy. But how exactly do you make sure you're doingin what you love? I cam across an article entitled, “How To Do What You Love” at: http://www.paulgraham.com/love.html.
And of course it makes good points that we usually associate work with things that are not fun like school. And it also has a lot to do on our parental influences, if we see our parents enjoying their field of work and prospering in it we are hopeful to find a career that we can also enjoy. But often, we see our parents logging in long hours, taking a toll on the family, putting harsh strains on our relationships and atatchments we have with them and our parents have with each other. I found this is often the case with children who feel like they have to fall in line with their parent's line of work because they have an image that getting involved in the family business or becoming a lawyer just like your dad is the only way to achieve success, these are conditions of worth and when you put these on children you uncessairly stunt their cognitive and emtional development The children that really prosper and grow are the ones that were alwasy presenting possibilities and were encouraged with the skills that they did have.
So how do we get past that and do what we love? Well aren't we essentially just being trained to be interns from a very young age, and that is true those basic daunting tasks are not fun but they are necessary. Can't we take the same view in love as well, in highschool and college when we begin to date we are just learning what we are looking for and what we are looking to avoid in future romantic partners. Well I believe the answer I even noticed this quote on sorority sister, Laura's Facebook profile, "We do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do." So take all the relationship stresses in stride because dealing with those will outfit you with the tools you'll need for communication and conflict resolution you will need for marriage.
The online article, "If you have to like something to do it well, then the most successful people must all like what they do". If you don't enjoy talking to a girl or boyfriend on the phone, or taking them out, then the relationships will suffer. I see this a lot in my friends when they are rocky or even on and off and they are always fighting, but about nothing in particular there is just always tension. I have noticed this tension usually stems from faithful or sexual issues but regardless these relationships are unhealthy and unsuccessful. In relationships, when you are with someone that makes you so happy and you love then you will be happier, have a better quality fo life, lower in disease, and actually live onger, so make sure you pick accordingly
And of course it makes good points that we usually associate work with things that are not fun like school. And it also has a lot to do on our parental influences, if we see our parents enjoying their field of work and prospering in it we are hopeful to find a career that we can also enjoy. But often, we see our parents logging in long hours, taking a toll on the family, putting harsh strains on our relationships and atatchments we have with them and our parents have with each other. I found this is often the case with children who feel like they have to fall in line with their parent's line of work because they have an image that getting involved in the family business or becoming a lawyer just like your dad is the only way to achieve success, these are conditions of worth and when you put these on children you uncessairly stunt their cognitive and emtional development The children that really prosper and grow are the ones that were alwasy presenting possibilities and were encouraged with the skills that they did have.
So how do we get past that and do what we love? Well aren't we essentially just being trained to be interns from a very young age, and that is true those basic daunting tasks are not fun but they are necessary. Can't we take the same view in love as well, in highschool and college when we begin to date we are just learning what we are looking for and what we are looking to avoid in future romantic partners. Well I believe the answer I even noticed this quote on sorority sister, Laura's Facebook profile, "We do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do." So take all the relationship stresses in stride because dealing with those will outfit you with the tools you'll need for communication and conflict resolution you will need for marriage.
The online article, "If you have to like something to do it well, then the most successful people must all like what they do". If you don't enjoy talking to a girl or boyfriend on the phone, or taking them out, then the relationships will suffer. I see this a lot in my friends when they are rocky or even on and off and they are always fighting, but about nothing in particular there is just always tension. I have noticed this tension usually stems from faithful or sexual issues but regardless these relationships are unhealthy and unsuccessful. In relationships, when you are with someone that makes you so happy and you love then you will be happier, have a better quality fo life, lower in disease, and actually live onger, so make sure you pick accordingly
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