SATC: Carrie as the EGO Sam as the ID and Charlotte as the SUPEREGO

The idea that the psycho-analytic structure of the mind could be represented by the characters of the HBO series, "Sex and the City" was suggested by my instructor for Counseling Psychology at UMD. The theory proposed seemed a little odd but I heard her out she explained their roles as:….

* Samantha (most left) as the ID: Samantha is driven by her instinctive primal needs and urges whether they be sexual or power driven even aggressive, she is a woman who gets what she wants.

* Charlotte (most right) as the SUPER EGO: which is concerned with moral fulfillment as well as cultural and family standards. Charlotte is in a hurry to get married and doesn’t want to end up an old maid so she impulsively accepted Trey’s proposal and ended up with a sexual performance issue, a fat divorce, oh but at least she ended up with that Park Ave. apartment, there is justice, or maybe karma.

* Carrie (third from left) as the EGO: She is the reality principle balancing both “angel,” innocent Charlotte and “devil,” promiscuous, bold Samantha. But she still has both on her shoulder keeping her in check, letting her occasionally indulge in lustful impulses like cheating on wonderful Aiden with a lost love, Big but she finally makes Charlotte proud when she decides to take the plunge into tying the knot with Big in the movie.

Perfect Perk-up Blood Orange Drink

I know this is pretty unconventional but just to mix things up I want to share with you a new creation of mine, it's like a "blood orange" drink. First I sliced a pomegranate in half, and juiced it in a citrus juicer, then I juiced one orange on top and it turns into this fun Sex On The Beach type drink. How easy is that? and I found it to be quite the perk-up on this blah winter afternoon with winter session class studying awaiting me. Hmmm maybe I'll try it in sangria over the weekend...

Sometimes bad relationships go on because of good sex:

This is a somewhat common problem because being intimate with a partner creates attachment, not only for the women but for the men too. Since sex is a basic need, it’s fulfillment may seem more obvious or pressing than deeper emotional and intellectual needs. But all three are necessary for a full, significant love. If your relationship is based on simply lust, that is a warning sign for turbulence ahead. In a situation like this, it is hard to look at the situation from an outside, objective perspective because of the sexual attachment, but you must do so and when you do you will see the lack of significant connection. A relationship like this is by no means a bad thing, as long as you know what you want. A lot of my girlfriends get placed in these situations seemingly without their consent but their problem was getting involved with him in the first place. If you are looking for an exclusive hook-up buddy this may be sufficient for you; but don’t be in a relationship that isn’t working because of the sex, there’s more where that came from.

Sometimes good relationships end early because of bad sex:

To overcome this challenge, you must first identify the cause of the absence or lack of quality in sex. Sometimes the issue is low sex drive which can be hormonal/biological or due to stress or emotional strains. Unlike popular belief, people who cheat sometimes, don’t always show a decrease in libido, because the source of the infidelity may be emotional or intellectual. Other times, it is because a lack of communication. If you feel shy to discuss sexual issues with your partner, you may have to reevaluate your openness and honesty with your partner, you shouldn’t ever feel ashamed to express what you like, don’t like, and fantasize about. Being open in communication will not only bring you closer, and improve the sex. Sex is a learned and socialized thing and it is not set in stone, if your partner is bad you can always fix it.