I was reading an article the other day about relationship status Facebook trends. I discovered that December 25th is the day with the highest number of break ups, I considered this particularly ironic because most think of the holidays as a time to spread love, joy, and cheer. My yoga instructor put it best when she said, during the winter we are spread in two directions: retreating from the elements and wanting to crowd our schedules and do all of our endless tasks. The pull can be trying and taxing on us physically and mentally. But is the changing seasons in our environment, or lack thereof have any effect on our relationships? As I have said goodbye to many friends who have left for warmer climates, I have noticed something they all have in common: the stability of climate had a positive affect on friends, grounding them and focusing their efforts. Many of them said they didn't even notice the holiday times and weren't stressed by it. Well in Dc, in the middle of rainstorms, metro delays, and crowded malls it's almost impossible not to notice the hecticness of the holidays. But if your surrounded by palm trees and warm weather, I'de imagine it would be a bit different. With the fluidity of the year and stable environment, it's easy for people to be content whether they are single or attached. Environment isn't everything in a relationship and of course there are many other factors involved, but Im simply suggesting if the decision is to move to New York or LA, picking LA may dramatically improve your outlook and relationships.
The transition from cold to warm climate can be tricky though, and I'm not just talking about taming your frizz in the humidity, but adjusting to the change in pace and new attitude of the place you're moving. They say "When in Rome do as the Romans do" so as many of you are coming to cross roads in life and decisions of moving are put forth I challenge you to think about which location can offer you the most of what you're looking for- and move there! Are you looking for a lot of flings, try Vegas. Want to attract artsy, creative people, move to the village in New York. Want someone exotic and high energy? Miami would be right for you. Want to find an active outdoor type, Boulder is the place for you then. So do you want a dramatic change? Or will you stay in your mindset? If so, maybe you want to stay close to home. I have seen too many friends make bad decisions on their move and they end up hating it because they felt like they stick out like a sore thumb. My only exception to this rule is not to move somewhere for someone, if you want to move, Do it independently. And as New Years is approaching and you consider your resolutions, consider moving can be the easiest way to change your mindset, your experiences, and your life. Birds migrate South for the winter, maybe there's a point to that.
Xoxo,
Ms, Date Guru
