Lipsticks He'll Love

In, Lipsticks He'll Love Tyra Banks helps shed some expert light on the best make-up to attract men....RED lipstick. This site offers a tone matching guide so you know the perfect red and pink for your own skin tone. Studies show that men are attracted to red more than any other color. It seems this may be due to the priming for sexual activity. They say that red triggers sexual thoughts because its reminiscent of the "sex flush" or rosey glow that forms during sexual arousal. The results show, men across the board would treat women who wear red in clothing or lip color better by being more willing to ask her on a date, spend more money on her, and want to sleep with her more. Either way, red gets boys' blood running. So if your single and looking for an instant update try red lip stick, it's gorgeous and polished. Think of the classic Old Hollywood look, red lipstick is seen all over the red carpet from Penelope Cruz, to Scarlett Johanson. And with the right shade, you will be making men drop like flies. One of my favorites,  YVES SAINT LAURENT ROUGE VOLUPTÉ Silky Sensual Radiant Lipstick SPF 15 in Red Temptation. It goes on like a dream, moisturizing and luxurious.

S.W.A.K. (Sealed with a Kiss)

He Who Is Recognized Is Appreciated

Recognition and Appreciation are fundamental in relational health. Sometimes the sources of issues in relationships are rooted in lack of these things. Popular methods of recognition can be non-verbal and mostly unconscious like: smiling, kissing, hugging, pat on the back, more attention etc. And of course can be communicated verbally as well in two words: THANK YOU. Using these words more often can be the easiest cure to a relationship common cold. Below are some key points to keep in mind:

* When men don't feel appreciated, they will do less. 
      Naturally men, and women too, will do as little as they have to do unless there's a motive. In business, the motive is money. Business partners won't do you favors because they like you, they will do it because of money. In relationships, the motive is care. When someone feels like someone cares about them, or they care about the other person deeply- it fuels relational satisfaction. So by showing appreciation, you are showing how much you care and subsequently, they will do more.

* The less you do, the more someone will appreciate you when you do something unexpected. 
     People will want  good behavior to be repeated. People also attend more to behaviors that are outside the norm. So when someone observes you doing something outside the norm that's positive they usually will try and encourage it. By the philosophy of classical behaviorism, when a behavior is positively reinforced, it is repeated. If you reinforce a behavior after each instance, than the behavior will be extinguished soon after the reinforcement or recognition stops. In order to create longer more lasting behavior, reinforce the behavior intermittently and inconsistently. So, don't feel stressed to recognize each positive act, but rather, show recognition as often as you notice it.

* When someone does a lot, it's easy to take them for granted.
      Think of your typical nice guy that bends over backwards for people and does nice things for people who don't deserve them. Some call them "tools" because people tend to use these kinds of people. And commonly people think that "nice guys finish last" because they have a hard time getting appreciation from women. According to my friend Nivan's wise words, "you will only be appreciated by the extent of value you demonstrated." So if you let your self be the doormat, you are exhibiting lower value and therefore will lack the appreciation you deserve. getting others to appreciate you starts with how much you appreciate yourself.

* If you don't communicate your recognition, men may think you don't appreciate them, even though you actually do.
      Most men won't do something unless they see a return of some kind. And as previously stated, the return men want from relationships is a symbiotic care. Men like to be the providers and make women happy. And that efforts is all the more worthwhile if they care about the woman they provide for. But showing your appreciation acts as a reinforcer and as something that makes men's care grow. So if you do appreciate what your man does, and want him to do it more you must communicate that. This is a case where actions don't always speak louder than words. But generally it is in good form to contribute as much as your partner. So conversely, recognizing your man's efforts will make him give you more recognition as well and strengthen your bond and relationship.

The Garbage Advice Guys Get

While reading my boyfriend's March issue of Maxim, I came across an interesting article called "Have Your Cake and Eat It Too: A Foolproof Guide to Cheating and Getting Away With It Some Tips From the Pros- Women". It offers some famed tips from women because apparently men (like Tiger Woods and Jesse James are less successful examples. So it's no surprise that in the U.S.  over 50% of spouses (male and female) do cheat- it is a grave reality in our time. It seems also, that women have more tricks up their sleeves for hiding trysts than men do, they go about it more stealthfully for the most part and forms methods of rationalizing their infidelities. But the fact that men acknowledge the need to hide it means they think cheating is wrong- so why do we still do it? After asking many of male friends clarified why men sometimes stray on their seemingly perfect girlfriends. I wanted to be enlightened why someone would repeatedly cheat if their girlfriend is someone like Halle Barry. Apparently, men may want the company of another women when they feel too trapped by their girlfriends. Many have high expectation making men feel like their walking on eggshells around them. When men are repeatidly immasculated by their girlfriends think nagging or starting fights in front of their friends, they need to assert their masculinity and their independence and cheating is often an easy way out. Since it's harder for men to verbalize these feelings they often try to set it straight on their own over having labored discussions with their significant other. Also, as many know, having a girlfriend is a another higher level of intimacy and a difference in sexual demeanor. You can't do certain sexual acts with your girlfriend because they would be demeaning, but there's no such guilt when they are with a hook-up. Girlfriends, may try to show more sensitivity to their man and under no circumstances withhold sex as a means of punishment. This would be defined as cruel and unusual by most men. Sex is more than a physical act so people should treat it as such. It should not be assigned dirty or wrong connotations, but rather the physical manifestation of a couples intimacy. This is why relationships are so accepted and exist in the first place. Trust is the number one thing in a relationship, so if you feel tempted don't stray and eventually you will come to face the problem (calmly) as you should. Cheating greatly changes the power dynamic in relationships and breeds guilt which is the number one form of psychological abuse. That's why relationships can't recover (fully at least) after cheating. In mine and many friends' experiences it may bring you closer in the short term but ultimately tear you apart in the long-term. Cheating is not a good coping mechanism and therefore these tips are Garbage. It's only when people realize the importance and effects of cheating that they will start to have better, more meaningful relationships. I hope that this will be a little spark of change that eventually inspires a change in relationship dynamic and eventually will improve the divorce rate.